Living with a cancer afflicted parent — A Series — Part 35

Accepting the difficult winter nights Image credit — Google Images The deadpan winter nights shiver at the sight of our life. The heaters around cannot warm the relationships they surround. As a minute stretches into an hour, so does the willingness to talk, once more. The corridor is silent, but the kitchen buzzes with activity. The cooker whistles,…

Living with a cancer afflicted parent — A Series — Part 34

The mortality talk — (ii) Image credit — Google Images As Mum goes back to her stitching and Dad gets busy on his phone, the news of sudden death of Mum’s distant cousin sinks in slowly. Mum keeps guessing the cause of death, remembering how sick one can get with stress & tensions. She checks her phone, tells Dad not…

Living with a cancer afflicted parent — A Series — Part 33

Resuming office Image credit — Google images Dad glared as me I entered his room this morning. He had begun his nebulization and Mum was prepping his breakfast. The clock said 9.48 am, and this meant I was late. He spoke to me in hollowed words, “Is this the time to get up? I have to leave for…

Living with a cancer afflicted parent — A Series — Part 32

Undergoing physical pain Image credit — Google Images “It will only be a small prick”, said the nurse as she inserted a peripheral venous catheter (pvc) into Dad’s arm to begin the chemotherapy medication for the day. She had strapped a band near his elbow, and asked him to tighten a fist. As she gradually inserted the needle,…

Living with a cancer afflicted parent — A Series — Part 31

The value of self-reliance Image credit — Google Images Dad’s an all-rounder. He is a fixer of things. Like a genie, he almost always find solutions to the problems of our house. From fixing a flat tyre to recalibrating an old grandfather clock, from setting new lights to sealing a faucet leak, from repairing a broken window panel…

Living with a cancer afflicted parent — A Series — Part 30

The worth of revisiting childhood Image credit — Google Images We all have some fond memories from our childhood, don’t we? Sometimes they sprout back through the aroma of your favourite savoury dish, or when a childhood beanie pops out of the winter clothes’ stack, or when you recall the summer vacation trips to cousins’ place as old…

Living with a cancer afflicted parent — A Series — Part 29

Keeping a balance between the good and the bad news Image credit — Google images Heart beating fast ready to pop out of my mouth, hands icy cold, voice weak, and stomach grumbling, I stepped into the radiological unit to enquire about Dad’s MRI report. As the assistant pulled out the large envelope of the films, she pointed…

Living with a cancer afflicted parent — A Series — Part 28

When emotions take over unexpectedly Image credit — Google images Having an ill parent often means that your emotions are on tenter hooks. Regardless of how much you’re accustomed to the illness, its side effects, its pain, and its outcome; the anxiety never ceases to exist. It becomes a greater challenge to hide those emotions when your parent…

Living with a cancer afflicted parent — A Series — Part 27

Handling emotional pressure Image credit — Google Images “Since you and your mother both are here, I think it’s better to discuss your marriage plans,” said Dad last evening, just as I was seating myself comfortably in their blanket. I froze, sealed my lips, and wanted to flee the room as fast as I could. Instead, I chose…

Living with a cancer afflicted parent — A Series — Part 26

A good night sleep Image credit — Google images The first thing I do these days after waking up in the morning is ask Dad, how was his sleep last night. His usual reply over the past few weeks has been, “Slept well. Woke up at around five or four to use the washroom. Then woke up at…