Cultivate bedside manners It’s been five days since Dad’s been home. He’s getting better each day, slowly but steadily. He still needs assistance with functions of the throat, so a feeding tube and tracheostomy tube is in place to help
Building empathy within the family Image credit — Google imagesWe got discharged from the hospital yesterday. Dad’s back home, and recuperating. Although he still has a tracheostomy tube and feeding pipe, assisting his throat to recover, things have been more or less smooth
When crisis strikes It’s been a very difficult week. I write this post, sitting inside a hospital room, with Dad sleeping in the bed. Five days ago, he had sudden arterial bleeding from his throat (the region where the tumor
Dinner table jokes Image credit — Google imagesTwo days ago, I saw Dad laugh, really loudly and freely. It was a laugh that I registered so well, that I want to write about it. Write and remember. So whenever I come back to
Getting busy with daily chores Image credit — Google imagesThe past few days have been particularly hard for Dad. The pain’s been unbearable at times, especially in the evenings when he returns from office. As Dad returns, has tea and finishes praying, the
Hold their hands Image credit — Google imagesThe research and studies behind the positive effects of physical touch are worth a read. A lot of them those I read state that sharing a warm hug, or cuddling, reduces stress. Now, a lot of
Having a great company Image credit — Google imagesAugust 15 is special for Indians for two reasons. The first is our country’s independence day. The second is a delight of having a weekday off, often leading to an extended holiday. This year is
Press brakes on the guilt trip. This one’s necessary. Absolutely necessary. One of the most difficult states of mind for a cancer patient, is guilt. The incessant guilt of making lives of family members hard, the guilt of not being
Ease out the physical and mental fatigue through head massages Now, this one habit is something that provides temporary comfort and relaxation. Cancer treatment makes the patient’s body susceptible to any sort of infection, but on a daily basis that
Decoding the ‘Be Positive’ Myth Image credit — Google imagesThe word ‘cancer’ is by far the most fatalistic word I’ve ever come across. The moment that word is associated with a living person, the atmosphere in the room changes. People’s expression become that
A journalist by training, Mariyam Haider is a writer and performance poet in Singapore.
She is the researcher of the book The Billionaire Raj: A Journey Through India’s New Gilded Age written by James Crabtree.
Her writing has appeared in Hindustan Times, Livemint, Feminism In India, New Asian Writing and Kitaab.